We had tried marriage counseling before, more than once. Unsuccessfully! I knew I did not want to separate and break up our family, but I did not understand what was wrong and more importantly felt powerless to fix things. I was both cynical and very reluctant the first time we met Michael. I was not sure anyone could help us.

I was proved wrong. The impact Michael has had on us has been more than we could have hoped for. After our first session I knew we had found what we needed - someone who could actually help - not waste our time and money with 'platitudes'. We learned so much about each other, about ourselves and about the issues and behaviours holding us back from having a loving relationship again - and we would never have gained so much without Michael's calm, wise and firm guidance.

I learned a great deal about myself too. It was difficult, but also liberating. Michael helped me recognise what I needed to focus on to help make Jane feel cherished, seen and safe. He also coached me on how to find fun, joy and happiness again while rebuilding that special connection with my best friend.

All I can say is thank you Michael. And to those hesitating or worrying about if there really is hope or is it worth it - trust me it is.

Our marriage counselling journey hasn't had the "happy ending" I'd imagined but in fact far better than that. Those traditional happy endings are for fairytales and don't equip us well for imperfection, reality and life's challenges. The last six months of counselling with you has been super challenging for both of us but transformative in every sense.

N has finally spoken his truth and I have recognised and taken responsibility for my part - we will now be able to rebuild our relationship from a foundation of trust and honest, open communication. The guidance you have given N has been a life/ game-changer, helping him to take the first and hardest steps, and finally taking responsibility for past infidelity.

He was so weighed down by shame and guilt that things were fast unravelling and becoming unmanageable for him, you have helped us to recognise a toxic generational cycle which has now been broken and can be repaired.

You have taught me to stand up with love, and to express what I want in our marriage. I feel empowered, I have my dignity back and no longer feel like a victim. And best of all after seeing what an intimate, loving relationship looks like, I want more and I won't settle for less.

So thank you for your guidance, for all that you have shared and taught us - you really are an expert at managing the delicate dance between desperately unhappy couples and helping them to be vulnerable enough to get a little closer together, so that they can hold each other through the pain and into the light. We are so incredibly grateful - thank you Michael.

Hi Michael,

I just wanted to let you know you've had a very profound and sustained impact on me over these past few years. Whilst we only saw you a handful of times, I found the sessions incredibly valuable.

I just wanted to say a very heartfelt and sincere thank you for being your amazing, brutally honest, wise and thoughtful self. I loved your 'tell it how it is' approach. Keep up the amazing work you do. It definitely does have an impact, even if it takes a while to kick in.

Have an awesome weekend and wishing you all the best.

Before my wife and I met and started working with Michael, my marriage was over.  My wife had "left the building" and only agreed to couples therapy as  a means of a smoother exit to our relationship.  Michael explained to her that a smooth exit was not out of the question, but a hard look at how we had gotten to such a place was where to start.

With amazing objectivity, he took us through our past as children and as a couple.  For me the process was plenty painful, but I did not want to lose my wife or my kids and was willing to do just about anything to prevent such a loss.  Today we are out of the dark, moving forward to a new future with a set of tools to better communicate and both feel heard.

I will be forever grateful!

I do not have high enough praise for Michael's work.  His integrity, clarity and insight allowed my husband and I to laser cut through our years of unfinished conversations and misunderstandings in a matter of months...to the point where we now have the tools to consistently go through "Door B" as Michael would say.....to do it differently.

Our marriage had a lot of love and was  a "good" relationship, but there were areas where we both felt unappreciated and "not seen".   We both needed to feel loved more and within a few weeks we already started the shift in our relationship....getting traction and seeing the changes and, even more feeling more love and fun together than we'd had in years, were all the "win" that we needed to keep going.

Unlike most therapists, Michael graduated us, at what I thought was an early point and told us, that our job now was to go and "have our relationship, make mistakes and get right back out of them".  He would just be a phone call away if we needed him, but he insisted that doing it with each other was the "real deal" of intimacy.

If you are a couple and you're not feeling the "love" like you used to, do THIS work.....it will change your marriage.

In my 1st session with Michael I realized that Michael "got me" like no other professional ever has. Michael pin pointed issues that I have had for more than 50 years that have held me back. He has helped me to improve my life and save our marriage. Even better the work we did was respectful and a lot more entertaining that I would ever have thought possible.

Kate and I would like to thank you for the work you have done with us. Our transformation using your strategies and meeting with you have been nothing short of life changing. Many thanks again Michael

Me? Get help with my marriage? You're joking right? After 55 years of 'doing all my own stunts' I honestly believed asking for help was a sign of weakness. But with my marriage at rock bottom and divorce looking like the only option, I was desperate. After a long, long talk, my wife outlined all the ways she was not willing to live with me a day longer. I convinced her to give our marriage one last chance and after much research, we 'bet the ranch' on Michael's two day intensive. I won’t lie to you, if you’re thinking of doing it, it was the toughest 2 days of my life. But it was also the best. Thanks to Michael refusing to let me BS my way through the various conversations and exercises, my wife and I finally discovered why we were stuck in a shitty cycle. I was very happy to find that it was the cycle that was the problem... Not me. Long story short, thanks to working with Michael I still have the relationship I always wanted with my wife and my family. Thank you, Michael.

Michael I really appreciate you following up.
I do know you tried very hard and I appreciate that so much. The fact you couldn't save my marriage is sad but as you said sometimes people aren't meant to be together.

My brain tells me that I will get through this, but at the moment my heart is telling me otherwise.

I am determined to have a good and better life and I will work very hard to do that.
You are a pretty amazing person and very talented at what you do and I congratulate you for that. I will be for ever thankful for the part you played in the most difficult time of my life so far.

I wish you all the very best.

Michael is a truly great marriage counsellor.
He sized up my marriage faster than any therapist we've seen before (and we've seen a few), and we made more progress in 3 months with him than I thought possible. I understand where my wife is coming from more than ever before which is amazing.

I no longer feel our marriage is at deaths door. I would highly recommend him to any couple who is struggling.

Michael knows exactly how to get a couple out of trouble and is fearless.
Before working with Michael I was very sceptical about therapy for couples and did not believe that any outsider could fully understand me, my partner or our situation well enough to be of help.  At best, I expected clichés and a quick fix that would wear out after a short time.  Michael is different and not at all what I had imagined in my cynical mind.
He knows exactly how to get a couple out of trouble and is fearless, original and talented in his approach.   Michael has provided permanent solutions that have eliminated the stony silences and my dark moods of the past.  My home is once again a place of light , laughter and love – a sanctuary that I genuinely return to with excitement and anticipation.  I can never thank Michael enough – he has saved me from myself and saved my relationship with my best friend and lover.

Michael Myerscough surprised us when we discovered he was a "Marriage Coach" as my wife, Brenda had been telling me of a book she was browsing.  "The New Rules of Marriage" written by Michael’s mentor.

Within the first three sessions, I found that the "mechanical" process of "accountability" allowed me to 'ask' for what I need in the relationship and to be willing to hear the requests of my partner; the love of my life.

Michael provided the avenue and we brought the desire and the willingness to use the tools that were presented by a trained professional.

We referred many of our friends to Michael and, based evidently on the changes they could see and that we shared, almost all of those we referred have been taking advantage of Michael's gift.

Thank you, Michael.

Michael saved both my marriage and myself. I had a crush on another woman which was splitting our marriage. Within two sessions, I realised that firstly I was suffering from depression and two that my crush on this other woman was my way of escaping the bleakness. This was helpful because I was able to let go of the crush and return emotionally to my wife.

My wife is probably even happier with Michael than I am. She has received a husband who is much more emotionally literate, able to handle intimacy and who is working his way out of the gloom that was murdering our marriage. I hated the idea of long months in the therapy chair working on my childhood issues but this was much clearer. Of course we did look at my past, but mainly we looked at solutions for my present state. We travelled in from Munich and Michael fixed a marriage I thought was over. He’s brilliant and I highly recommend him.   A big thanks to Michael!

My husband and I have been married for over 30 years and most of those years were spent raising our 6 children and striving to achieve goals that we had set for ourselves. Imagine my dismay when we had accomplished almost everything we had dreamed about and we were a light year away from happy. Our many homes, cars, vacations and travels did little to cover up the fact that we had grown apart and rather than love and joy, anger and hurt seemed to prevail in our once happy relationship.
There was so much blame circling around us that we saw and felt little else. I would not say that we were on the verge of divorce, but we found ourselves spending less time together and more time with other people. Even our time with family brought us little joy. Our children wondered out loud what had happened to their parents who used to laugh, dance, sing and lead a happy family. Without our direction, our whole family seemed to be slowly falling apart. We sought help from many directions. Counseling from traditional therapists brought little results. They wanted to medicate us into oblivion or start us on a program that would take years to uncover what was at the core of our problems. We didn't believe that our marriage would survive years of reliving our past actions. We needed someone to teach us how to communicate with each other in a way that would not be blaming or hurtful.

Along came Michael. He was able to show me that being hurt did not give me the right to give hurt back. He helped me to realize that I did not need to react with anger but responding with kindness achieved much of what I wanted and needed. I began to look at my husband as my friend and not the enemy. He helped me to understand that I did not need to be the victim any longer. I know that my husband felt the same way. Remembering how much we loved each other and how much more love we had to give to each other worked miracles. Michael taught us that expressing our hurt and pain to each other knowing that we could trust each other to help rather than seeing an opportunity to push buttons in future conflict. Please reread this statement again. It is life changing.

There is so much more to say about the help we received from Michael and I could go on for pages. Remember that our outlook on our marriage and ourselves took about six weeks of once a week meetings with Michael. Real results in a very little time has us walking a totally different path and realizing joys that we thought were impossible to have in our lives again.

I hope that more couples will turn to the message that we have only heard from Michael. All of you in Australia have a truly talented man who can bring love back into your relationships. Lucky you!!

My husband and I were well on the path to divorce when he organised our sessions with Michael. I have to say I felt it was a waste of time and too much damage had been done. Michael helped us to see the patterns in our relationship and how we had both contributed to our pain. Not only did he give us the awareness, he also gave us the tools to step out of these cycles. I can not believe we are staying together and we are happier than we have been in years.

My wife found out about an 8 year emotional affair I'd been having. Somehow I'd convinced myself that it wasn't a big deal and that I wouldn't get caught. Well, I got caught and it was a huge deal. It was horrific. At points I was afraid that I'd either killed my wife or she was going to kill me. I had no idea this was going to cause such a big rupture or how I was going to repair what I'd done to our family. We saw another therapist who did not help at all and my wife was consuming information from the internet which made it a lot worse. I really began to believe we were done.

As much as I know what I did was wrong, Michael was the first person to convince me I wasn't the monster that other people appeared to be painting me as. We have two kids and I was desperate not to have the family be destroyed by my bad behaviour. Michael taught me how to start asking for what I truly needed in my relationship rather than trying to get those needs met elsewhere. It's actually working and no one could be more surprised than me about how that can even be possible.

My wife and I have not only stayed together but are communicating in a way we had never done before. Michael has brought hope to the future of our relationship and has coached us both to be better people and love each other more effectively.

One year ago my world came crashing down when I found out that my amazing, seemingly perfect husband had been seeing prostitutes for 9 months. I am a mum with three small boys. I didn't know what to do or how to function. All I knew is that I had to hold it together for my children.

After seeing several marriage counsellors who were unable to help, my husband and I found Michael. He listened, was straight talking and offered amazing coping mechanisms. Michael also helped us unearth the problems that were really going on. Unbeknown to us, my husband had been suffering from depression for a number of years which manifested itself in self destruction and a nervous breakdown. He was suicidal and deeply remorseful for what he did.

With Michael's help, we rebuilt our marriage and our love for each other. I have gone from a wreck of a woman consumed with thoughts and anxiety brought on by the situation to a happy, strong person who is slowly learning to trust again. My husband is back to his normal wonderful self and is working through his depression. I know that if it wasn't for Michael, my husband would l not be alive today. I'm so very grateful to him for helping us through the worst time of our lives.

Today, my husband and I have a better relationship than ever and we are very much in love. Our family is thriving and life is good.
Thank you Michael!

Over the last 20 years we've tried so many different ways to improve our relationship. And truth be told I've hated them all. Michael's 2 day Couples Therapy Retreat was different. Very different. He understands that as a guy you just need to tell me what to do and then get me to practice it over and over again until I've got it. At points I felt like he drilled details into me, incredibly though I started using the skills as if they were natural for me. As a result his approach was so much more helpful than any other I've tried. 6 months later, my wife and I are still enjoying the benefits that come from using the new skills Michael has given us. I think we actually love each other more now than when we first met. And - I don't say this lightly - this is a miracle because before working with Michael I was so unhappy I'd decided my best bet was to simply swallow the cost of divorce. It still makes me shudder now to think how close I came to losing my family. If you are considering doing the 2 day intensive, just do it, it gets the job done, fast.

Thank you Michael.

Yesterday's intensive was amazing, I really thought I was the only issue and it's been spiralling me down deeper and deeper into this depression. It was at a point where I was questioning my love for Claire as I felt like I was lost.

I am very happy just from yesterday's outcome. Thankyou for showing us a way forward and through the mess I got us into. I look forward to future meetings with you.

The sessions we had with Michael were a last attempt to stop my marriage from disintegrating. I wasn’t sure what to expect but I certainly did not expect the massive turnaround in our relationship that we have had. After so many years of loneliness and sadness, my husband and I have now reconnected. There is a level of affection and kindness that never even existed at the start of our relationship. I feel safe and loved. My husband is happier and our kids are more settled. We couldn’t be happier that we worked with Michael.

We first visited Michael because we weren’t sure that our marriage was still worth the effort.  We’d already tried counselling and had got nowhere but Michael was different!

He immediately identified our underlying problems.  He often says things we don’t want to hear but balances his insights with humour and compassion.

Michael has saved our marriage and has helped us as individuals in the process – we’re happier than we've ever been!

We met Michael, at a point where our marriage was at rock bottom and I was really struggling with how it was going. I wanted out, but something kept me wanting to make it work. We had seen marriage counsellors, before, but Michael, was different. He has a great knack of getting to the root of the issue, using humor and a lot of sensitivity; he understands your boundaries and knows when to cross them.

Needless to say, after three sessions, my wife and I were back in bed, making love (after seven years of no sex); our communication is improving, thanks to the tools, Michael offers and I finally feel like my wife, loves me and I love her - beyond the use of lip service. Michael, is a champion and I highly recommend his services. Thanks again mate!

We stumbled across Michael’s site during a time of absolute marriage hell and upheaval. I thought my marriage was over. My husband turned around one morning out of the blue and said he was done with our 14 year marriage and he was attracted to someone else. I was completely blindsided and was at an utter loss. My whole world was destroyed in an instant.

I convinced him over the following days to try therapy and we were lucky to have been seen quite urgently by Michael due to a cancellation. Our first 3 hour intense session was just that. Intense. I heard things during that 3 hours that I never, ever dreamed I would hear. By the end of the 3 hour session we had gone from being in initial divorce talks to having our first romantic date night in years half an hour after leaving Michael’s offices.

My husband was also diagnosed with depression – something he was in denial about for years and which was one of the main reasons for his distraction with someone else. We have been able to totally turn around our lives on a personal level and also on a couple level too. With the help of Michael we have learnt how to communicate again, how to distinguish between our differing personalities, how to set boundaries, how to trust again, how to have a fantastic sex life and how to love again. Don’t think it will be easy though as Michael is a tough, straight shooter and he will take you places you have kept hidden in your psyche for years and he will identify exactly how your marriage got to the place it did. He will also make you look long and hard at your behaviour and how to fix the ‘unfixable’.

Michael more importantly is also a man of complete empathy, understanding, gentleness and total compassion. If your marriage is in crisis and you think it can’t be salvaged take a chance and just see. It is an investment for your future and money well spent. We credit Michael for bringing us back from a very dark place into a bright, happy, loving future.

When I contacted Michael regarding therapy it was with the explicit intent that he help us end our marriage in an amicable and conscious way for the sake of our children.  This was our 3rd attempt at couples counselling and I was not interested in the least in "saving my marriage."  I realise that if you're reading this you may be thinking "no one understands how bad your marriage is or could possibly have the tools to fix it".  I was dealing with a spouse that had demonstrated drug, alcohol and sexual dysfunction and I had been more or less a single parent and primary provider while remaining in this shell of a marriage.   What was left to save?

The fact that Michael was able to tactfully work around my wall of resistance to even keep me in the room should be a testimony to his calibre as a therapist.  Over the following four months he was able to dissect 12 years of marital dysfunction and elicit practical commitments from both of us to start rewriting our relationship.  Michael has the uncanny ability to walk a fine line between empathy and calling you on your shit.  If you're convinced that your marriage is over - give yourself the gift of certainty that you really have tried your best.

If Michael can't save your marriage then no one can and you can leave with a clear conscious.  I promise you he will heal many of your wounds, give you great insight into your negative love patterns and he just might perform a miracle for your marriage.

Wow, I never thought I could get someone to get through to my husband and allow him to see himself in true REALITY! Michael Myerscough has been an absolute life changer for my marriage and it is evident that his approach to marriage therapy is a success story in itself.

My husband has a drinking problem which has been an issue in our marriage since the beginning. I and my children have witnessed his on and off binge drinking for many years, which has resulted in many unpleasant memories. I had been drained of all my energy and I was left questioning my marriage and whether it was worth persevering to save. Then I came across Michael, who challenged my husband without once shying away from verbalising exactly how he saw our situation.

I was surprised to see how well my husband responded to Michael’s approach and I believe that this was due to how Michael delivered his concerns. Michael was amusing and always respectful and this approach seemed to be what resonated well with my husband. Throughout therapy Michael voiced some ‘hard cold facts’, which resulted in my husband listening to and understanding what consequences he may face if his behaviour did not change. Michael was my last resort and if he was unable to assist my husband in making changes, then I was looking at departing the marriage.

After three therapy sessions with Michael the difference in my husband’s old habits were remarkable. My husband’s behaviour began to calm down and his drinking continued to diminish over the next few sessions. I too, am now able to recognise my role and the importance of communicating in a marriage, so that my needs are met as well as my husband’s.

I would like to point out that my husband is a very ‘blokey, bloke’ and doesn’t respond at all well to being confronted without retaliating. To my surprise Michael knew exactly how to handle my husband’s responses keeping him calm and focussed.

My husband and I had already attempted marriage counselling with a psychologist in the past. However, the difference between those sessions and the sessions with Michael was a real eye opener. I would recommend Michael to my closest and dearest, as my husband and I are testimony to his therapy technique and without his input I can guarantee that my marriage would not have survived.

So, I would like to reach out to all you women out there, who are having struggles in your marriage and believe that there is no way you could convince your husband to see a marriage specialist. Do not despair because there is hope, show your husband this testimonial and let him know that this marriage specialist is like no other and is the first ‘smart’ step to saving your marriage and getting it back on track.

Instead of believing that your marriage is beyond help I can only say to you that after a few sessions with Michael Myerscough, both you and your husband will want what you both have?????? EACH OTHER!

Your teachings has opened up a whole new world for me. I am able to better understand the emotional requirements required, firstly to be genuinely happy with ourselves, and secondly to try to understand and be happy with my wife.

If I were to advise anyone who found themselves in the unfortunate position that I was last year and I had to sum up my learning with you it would be; find someone who's advice you can trust implicitly, open your mind to suggestions that feel completely alien to everything that you want to do and say at the time of your trauma.

Do not fight the feelings, allow them to happen, accept that they are normal and part of the healing.

Time isn't the sole healer of a traumatic event, following a process of effective counselling, education, and rebuilding is.

Nobody can do it for you, they can only guide you, the work comes from yourself, and if you do it properly, it's bloody hard work.

Thanks once again for guiding me toward my path Michael, perhaps our paths will cross one day and I can shake your hand.

Best regards