Are you deeply worried about your relationship due to the extra stress of the Coronavirus?
Do you wonder how online marriage counselling might work?
Do you have any questions about whether or not online couples counselling does work?
Have you lost the ability to pretend you’re OK with not being listened to, or understood?
Welcome to The Reconnected Couple. I have offered relationship counselling online for over 10 years and can assure you that it does indeed work. My counselling is totally confidential, accessible and effective. Given the alarming circumstances that we are all currently living through, I understand how important these factors are for couples and individuals alike.
Please know this – You are not alone.
I know from my recent calls that the reason most people are looking for online marriage counselling right now is due to the Coronavirus or COVID-19. In order to address that directly, I’ve added this specific information to my relationship counselling online page. I just want to reassure you that you are not alone in having your issues hugely magnified right now.
Currently you are dealing with unimaginable levels of stress and uncertainty due to Coronavirus. You are spending a LOT more time with your partner than you may ordinarily. You won’t know this, but around Christmas time, I always experience a big surge in emergency client calls. When people in shaky relationships spend a lot of time together, certain things simply cannot be ignored. When you are at home with too much time on your hands, you are forced to reflect on your relationship. When you combine this reflection with all the very real fears about where this is going and whether that cough is the beginning of the end, it is absolutely awful. Things cannot be ignored anymore. Things are now as bad, or worse, than they have ever been, and it’s understandable that you feel trapped.
Is meeting face-to-face impossible for you right now?
For some of us, the idea of sitting in an office with a counsellor is now an unacceptable risk if anyone we know is deemed to be vulnerable and/or higher risk. If anyone sneezes, it’s suddenly totally alarming and people still insist on getting too close. We wonder how long the virus can live on cloth, does it live in water? Can it live in the air? All these things make sitting with people you don’t really need to sit with seem foolish. I absolutely understand this, and I hope this page will answer all your questions.
You are looking for online counselling because your marriage is getting alarmingly bad right now. Whilst we are living under the threat of what this pandemic brings, we can begin to behave very badly. I’m currently working with couples that are normally level-headed, but hearing about them erupting in ways that are nothing less than scary. The good news is that, with a well skilled, systems-based couples therapist, you can get back to feeling much better, very quickly. I’m known for working with serious couples with serious problems and pulling them back from the edge.
Scientifically proven to work.
Honestly, I’d expect you to be concerned about whether relationship counselling online can work. Well, the good news is that the science says it can. Psychology Today investigated the value of online therapy in 2019 and found three studies that proved skills-based therapy can indeed be delivered online. What was even more interesting was a study published in Behaviour Research and Therapy that found that the positive improvements were sustained when they followed up a year later. If you look at my biography you will see that my training is in skills based therapies.
Realistically, online counselling is pretty much the same as when you sit across from me on the lounge in my office. The only major difference is that we are looking at each other on a screen and you are sat in the comfort of your own home.
Why do people choose online couples counselling?
There are several reasons for choosing to engage in relationship counselling online. For years now, I’ve found that Australia presents some big challenges for those that have chosen to live the good life out in rural areas. You can end up a long way from support. Maybe you live too far away to get help, or you’ve been disappointed with the couples counselling available locally. I know from my own experience that getting help online allows me to work with some of the best minds in the country.
Another benefit of online marriage counselling is that some people, especially men, can find it much easier to be open and honest about what they’re struggling with. It’s hard for them to come in for counselling, in truth the men that appear in my office have often been dragged there upon the threat of divorce. I have a whole page about that here. Working online can reduce that pressure considerably, and can certainly remove some of the stigma and fear of walking into my office.
What makes you different?
As you explore the rest of my website, you’ll see that my approach is very much skills based. I am primarily a coach with a therapeutic background. I will quickly tell you both what is going wrong in your relationship and how to start solving problems – together. Whether we are face-to-face in my office or working together online, if you are prepared to do the work, you will get the results you’re looking for. My clients often say they appreciate my candour or, in one couple’s words, said “Wow, you’re not backwards about coming forwards are you?!”
Past clients have mentioned how important it was for them to see feedback on my work. As a result, I occasionally ask for testimonials. I have found them to be very helpful when it comes to figuring out whether someone is a good fit or not for you.
What about privacy?
Currently you may fear that you don’t have anywhere private enough to speak with me, at least not with peace of mind. With us all being stuck at home, it can certainly be a little tricky, but I’ve had people get creative and end up talking to me whilst both sat in the car or out on a patio. At my end, your call is totally confidential and I use a headset so there is no chance of anyone else hearing what you are saying. When working with me, you can rest assured knowing that I have a real commitment to your privacy and security.
After you schedule an appointment with me, my assistant will touch base with you to determine whether you would prefer to speak with me via Skype or Zoom. Zoom is especially helpful if you are no longer living in the same home. I understand that, for some, this kind of thing can feel a bit intimidating, but the good news is that you don’t need to be a technology wizard to do online marriage therapy. My assistant will help you work through any concerns you may have. Think of it this way; Skype has over 300 million monthly users and they can’t all be smarter than you.
Seriously, you think relationship counselling online works?
Yes, I do. If it didn’t, I wouldn’t waste your time (or my own) with it. Admittedly, I’m a bit of a perfectionist and not getting results is simply unacceptable to me. I travelled back and forth between London and Boston, for years, to learn the skills to do this work. As I said earlier, there are several studies that demonstrate its effectiveness. So long as you’ve got a good Internet connection and can make the time to do the work with me, you’re all good.
My relationship is probably not worth saving, it’s just gone too far.
That is a very real feeling right now, and it is something that I am hearing more and more as we navigate this pandemic. My website targets couples in crisis because that’s what I do best. No one works with me because they find the idea fun. It’s an awful time and if your relationship wasn’t the best before, it was always going to get a whole lot worse. As none of us have the option to uproot our lives and move away from our current home right now, I encourage you to be as proactive as possible and start getting help as soon as you can.
Isn’t it expensive?
I understand how you feel, I’ve felt the same way when I’ve had to get help. Here’s the thing, someone can always do it cheaper, but counselling is one of those areas where you get what you pay for. I address this more on the FAQ’s page, but expensive is relative. Running two homes on the same amount of income is hugely expensive and that’s before the lawyers start trying to make a living out of your misery.
Welcome to The Reconnected Couple.
I’m really glad you found your way here. Please take a look around in order to get a better feel for how I can help you and your spouse to get your marriage back on track. I’d recommend starting here. Relationships are really hard at times and right now yours is clearly in trouble. If the low oil warning light comes on in your car, you simply don’t ignore it for years. When it comes to relationships, people tend to ignore the warning signs for years. You’re not alone with that. Get help before it blows up and becomes a wreck. Keep your eyes open for the Free Resources button and sign up. I’ve compiled my absolute best writing from the past 15 years and would now like to share it with you. You will receive 110 years of combined wisdom, from the world’s best experts, for getting the love you deserve and desire right now. If you’d like to get in touch please do, as I’d love to help get your relationship back on track .
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