Here is the 3rd of your 3 great giveaways and is the largest piece of the accumulated wisdom. This is a recording of my favourite interview ever with Gordon Livingston based on his bestselling book How To Love. He talks about the things that actually matter in a relationship and how to make sure you get them. This is a MP3 recording you can either download to your player or listen to on your computer. I’ll say it one more time, this recording changes lives.
As a sneak peek let me share some of the incredible insights he will outline for you. Gordon was a very senior clinician and after 40 years working as a psychologist he was one of the very few people to be willing to say publicly that some partners just aren’t a good bet in the longer term. He outlines how to spot them in this recording. This doesn’t get talked about much but if you’ve hooked up with a narcissist or borderline personality disorder it’s going to be very painful without help. That’s just the first 2 he talks about. It’s unlikely you understand just how reluctant most professionals were to make that information public. Do not miss out on listening to this incredibly insightful man.
Gordon also developed the mantra that ‘kindness is king’. This is a fabulously simple way to make your relationship better together. In fact, often at the end of an intensive with me people will ask what the number one thing is they can do to get along better and I’ll say; ‘kindness is king, try to be nice to each other for a little while.’ I learned that from Gordon years ago and it has served me very well. His contribution has been huge.
Of course that is not the full solution but it’s a solid starting point that cuts through some of the accumulated anger and resentment.