Hello again.

How are you today? Did the relationship emergency pass? Let’s face it there can be some almighty lows even in a relatively healthy relationship. That said, do not be fooled. If you’ve been experiencing pain there’s a reason for it and I can promise you your situation will not change until you change something. Ideally that ‘something’ is you and your approach to your partner. Unless of course your partner is particularly difficult which we can talk about later on in this course.

Experience has taught me that people have a hard time getting around to the things that matter most. Did you listen to that recording on boundaries and self esteem I sent you the other day yet? I’ve been working with people, just like you, for nearly 30 years now and let’s just say you wouldn’t be the first to not do their homework.

Once she’s got you all inspired to fully understand how and why to communicate exactly what is ok and what isn’t ok with you, then why not give the recording I sent you another try. If you want things to improve you really are going to have to do some work. As Brene says ‘the nicest and most compassionate people are also the most well boundaried.’

As a bonus tip here’s something to keep in mind, it’s from Brene Brown’s work again. ‘Always choose discomfort over resentment.’ Say what you mean, mean what you say and try to avoid saying it mean. If you start getting really good at this you’d be amazed how much better your life and your relationship is going to become.